Before we say " I do"

Dear future husband, 

I don't know if you have ever thought of me! 

But, call me insane, I spend every night wondering what you might be like! 

How my life would alter by your mere presence! 

I am looking forward to spending an eternity with you! 

I am looking forward to sharing that cup of hot chocolate with you on a cold winter night! 

I am looking forward to sharing all my fears with you! 

I am looking forward to embrace all your flaws! 

I hope you are strong- hearted because I am not an easy person to be with! 

Please bear with me! 

I might get cranky at times and ridiculously unreasonable at the same time.

But, be rest assured that I will love you with all my heart! 

Please be by my side and hold my hands when I get scared! 

I have heard many a stories of how the love between couples dwindles with time. 

But, I want us to strive hard to challenge this age-old notion.

There'd be times you'd hate me!

But, please love me even when you hate me! 

I promise to give you, your space! 

I promise to grant you time to hang out with your guy- friends and even play video games! 

All I want in return is for you to respect me. 

I want you to accept me the way I am! 

I want you to respect my parents, I am their daughter please don't forget that! 

I don't expect you to bring me a rose every day, but please appreciate the little things I'd do for you! 

There'd be times when I wouldn't feel like dressing up, Please love me even when I look unkempt and ugly! 

Please don't break my heart! 

Please don't hurt me! 

I ensure you that I'd try to be a good wife! A good daughter- in - law! 

But, I'd make a few mistakes in the process please ignore them! 

I want us to have a safe haven.

All I want is for you to recognize that! 

P.S- I will always love you! 

Your deranged 

Future- wife!

An Inherent Connect

"Mother"

The one word that leaves us all choked up.The word mother in itself envelopes warmth around its being.We share a connect with our mothers that is inexplicable, it is the one bond which is extremely celestial in nature.We all see the presence of God in the love of our mothers.When we are hurt ,the first word that we utter is that of our mother's and no matter where she is in the world she seems to know that we are in pain, such is the love of a mother's.

They say a mother is the best teacher one can have.

She teaches us the lesson of strength by bearing us in her womb for nine whole months.

She teaches us the lesson of unconditional love when she holds us in her hands for the very first time and forgets the hours of labour pain she went through just seconds ago.

She teaches us the lesson of sacrifice when she stays awake for months just to make sure we sleep right.

She teaches us the lesson of contentment when she stays away from her social life for the longest time possible to make sure we are taken care of.

She teaches us the lesson of conviction even when we are not sure of ourselves she is someone who thinks we can do the impossible.

She teaches us the lesson of experimenting by seeing our favorite cartoon shows with us just to keep us entertained.

She teaches us the lesson of hospitality by spending hours in the kitchen just to treat our friends to nicest of the cuisines.

She is our mirror to the world and makes us realize that there is both good and bad in the world and helps us in choosing the right path.

She makes our dreams hers, and leaves no stone unturned in helping us fulfilling them.

She will fight the world for us, but if we are wrong she makes sure we learn a lesson so strong that we don't even think of making the same mistake again.

She assures us that there is nothing to fear when she is around.

She is someone who always wants the best for us and showers all her blessings on us.

She celebrates our every little achievement and flaunts our victories amongst all her friends.

She thinks we are beautiful even if we look like potato heads.

She constantly worries about us as she knows our worst fears.

She knows what we are like without all the pretences that we put up.

She is someone whom we take for granted , for someone we shout our lungs out,  if we are upset and the best part of it all is that she understands and even after a major fight she would still offer us food.

She teaches us lessons that we pass on to our children and many generations to come...

Blessed are Mothers for they are God's gift to each one of us.

I know many of you feel that not one day but 365 days should be dedicated to our mothers as they are someone who have been on an unpaid job ever since without a vacation. But let us all take this one day to celebrate our mothers as they are everything and beyond and are the roots to our being.

Happy Mother's Day Mumma...I don't say it often but I love you more than anything in this world.Thankyou for bearing with me only you can do the impossible. :) 

#Our Choice

We are all fond of catching up with the recent trends and are always in a fear of missing out so when Homi Adjania decided to make a short clip on Women Empowerment called the #MYCHOICE it was bound to go viral. Of course , we all have our personalised views of what should or should not have been featured in the small clip. But , one thing is certain that we are taking #MyChoice way too seriously. You wonder why I say that but it's high time we ponder on this . I happen to be a citizen of Delhi and I absolutely love it and my heart pains every time some one says that Delhi is not a safe place , on hearing this I feel so helpless as I can't even deny the allegations they put on my amazing city. We elect a new Chief Minister and we think that now that we have voted we have done our job.Now , its time for the ones in power to take action, No?!? That's how our thought processes. Why do we forget that we the common people can have all the power there is if we stand united , if we stand for each other if we stand with each other. And what is with us expressing our anger in such a heinous way. Are we forgetting that we are human and not animals , even animals don't attack unnecessarily . It isn't our choice to beat someone to death in front of his children merely for scratching our car. Whereas ,it definitely is our choice as onlookers to do something about the incident and not just enjoy one man's thrashing with popcorn in our hands . Wake up ! It isn't a movie scene , Help the poor man/woman. Do something , don't just stand there and trust me if you take one step forward , you'd inspire many a people to do the same. Don't be afraid and say things like " faltu ka panga ho jaayega". You never know when the spotlight might be on you and then you'd lose the right to curse the onlookers or call them for help. It is high time we start being a civil citizen , a citizen who takes action and not just witnesses it. PLEASE!!  it's really a desperate call for help.

As for the ones in authority we have been waiting for far too long for you to do your job well. You are a guardian of this wonderful city. You ought to protect it , please let Delhi be the capital of the country not the crime capital. We promise to be responsible citizens but we need someone to look upto . Be that guiding light for us , be the beacon of hope for us , Reach out when we need you, because we really need your support. It's time you ignite the fear in the minds of the people who think of doing anything stupid and not the other way round. 

We want to get out of our house with certainty not with fear inculcated in us.we want it to be #ourchoice to feel protected. 

As for the people with all the pent up anger who express it by killing someone , by raping someone , by abducting someone or by hurting someone.Seek Help! And know for a fact that even a monster is better than you! And , God Bless you with a heart and some brains.

So my fellow netizens , get over the two and a half minute #mychoice clip and start talking about this grave issue . Let's promise each other to be a much more responsible citizen and most importantly lets promise to be human at least. 

Stuti Mohata 

Look up...Look Around

I have always been in awe of Deepika Padukone.She is someone whom every girl wants to emulate and every guy wants to be with.Isn't it true?!? But , Recently when I read an article of hers claiming that she had been suffering from depression I was shell shocked. I mean " How can she be depressed?!?" She has everything. Truth be told, I was amazed that someone as popular as her could be in such a state. First of all my respect for her grew leaps and bounds as "Depression" is a topic no one dares to speak about so kudos to her for bringing this ghastly disease into limelight. This made me think that we all form assumptions about people and have no idea about their battles. Just by seeing a few pictures on Instagram / Facebook / Snap Chat we assume that such and such person is so happy and we end up comparing our lives with their virtual world. What we fail to understand is the virtual world is just a pretty layered cake. STOP COMPARING !!! And stop feeling bad about yourself. If you have a roof over your head , a few good friends , a nice and loving family and enough food on your plate , you are more blessed than you could ever imagine . Count your blessings!
Technology has solved many a problems and we just can't do without them . But , at the same time it has created a distance between people. Where at one point parties were all about meeting people eating good food and just letting yourself be . Today , they are all about taking pictures of the food and posting it on Instagram  , snapchatting the duck faces and people peeking into their phones all the time. We don't even listen to what the other person is saying , 8 out of 10 people are dug deep down into the screens of their phones . We are a bunch of lunatics who hang out not with people but with our mobile phones . Really?!? Have we gotten this sad in life . We have stopped living in the moment and have started dwelling in the likes and comments of our facebook pictures . Ask yourself a question , when was the last time you gave your phone a rest and actually heard what the other person was saying! " Putting your phone away and Paying attention to those talking to you?!? There is an App for that it's called " RESPECT" .
I happened to enter a room and there were five kids of the same age and I was appalled to see them , 2 of them were watching television , one of them was playing a game on the iPad the other one was reading a book and the fifth child was taking a cat nap . I was furious at seeing this sight , What has happened to us ?!? Has technology made us so pathetic ?!? I remember when I was a kid all I wanted to do was play and play. But , unfortunately the only physical activity the kids of Gen X and Y are into , is in their 2 hour session of PS3's , wee and etc . Parents I know you want the best for your kids but please introduce them to the parks , to the outdoor activities , let them get muddled in dirt . And Please , don't give them phones/ iPads at the age of six and seven. Don't let technology ruin their childhood. Let them Enjoy! Let them be.
And, as for you Look up, Look around be a master of the Technology not a slave of it. Be in the moment , live in that moment . Forget doing things for Facebook ,whatsapp or Instagram . Take the memories with you .Listen to people , talk to them , get to know them better not by stalking their profile but by knowing them in person . Take lots of pictures , frame them and put it on the walls of your rooms and not on the walls / timelines of your facebook profile. Use Technology , don't let it use you. And give your phones a much needed vacation! Look up... Look around but after reading this blog post :) .

Light at the end of the tunnel

"Sometimes all you need is a warm and a tight hug!"

  I am at an age where being Confused is a constant state of mind. I am at an in between age, I am neither an adult nor a teenager.I no longer fall into the category of "being cool" and trust me it's a rather bitter pill to swallow to accept this fact. Where, at one point I was dragged to socialize with my relatives, truth be told Today I equally enjoy meeting the older relatives as well as the kids or people of my same age  (if my mom reads this, I bet you she'd be in a state of shock) until and unless they start asking questions ,even I don't know the answer of. The irony of it all is Whereas I am certain of the things I don't want in my life , I have no idea of what I actually want in life. Even logging onto facebook has become a scary errand you end up reading posts that is bound to make you feel bad about yourself. My newsfeed is filled with friends getting engaged, some even having babies, some making it big by working at some of the best companies.

And here I am , absolutely clueless of what I want and the only relationship I am in is the one that I have with my phone. Yeah FML! No matter where I go the one question I am always asked is "When are you getting married?!?" To all the aunties and uncles " I don't know ,When am I getting married and Thankyou for scaring the hell out of me" Even when I mentally accept that it is okay for me to think about marriage , I immediately put aside this notion thinking of all the things my mother still scolds me for. I am still a kid at heart , how do you expect me to handle my own household?!? I still have to cross out a lot of things off my bucket list. I am at an age where on one hand  I have begun to understand the value of money , on the other hand I desperately want that Zara top or something that interested me on the online shopping portals. I hate asking for money from my parents and yet I have too little of my own. I no longer have the stamina or enthusiasm as I had when I was a teenager and I am always scared of getting older.

I am at an age , where I am supposed to be responsible and careful , yet I still end up losing half of the things I own and , my room and my closet is never clean . I want to be independent yet I am dependent on my mother for every small little thing. I am nowhere close to living my "dream life" , and when I see the "not so cool " at school kids doing well in life I just feel like hibernating from the world. I am at an age where I want my parents to be proud of me. I want to connect all the dots but I have no idea where to find the conjoining line.I am at an age where the Name of the Birthday Album has changed from the age to the year. Like , Birthday '2014 unlike "My 18th Birthday". I have grown up, when did this happen?!? And How do I make it stop, If I could learn one magic trick I'd really want to learn, how to make time stop . I am nowhere close to the plan I set out for me , I am still a lazy bum, I feel like I am in this tunnel where I don't know where the direction of my life is going yet I feel there will be a light at the end of the tunnel that would guide me through. So here's hoping that eventually everything falls into place, and the state of mind changes to "Stable" from "Confused" . Until then , Laugh at the Confusion , live for the moment and know that everything happens for a reason...

Rewind...

Rain always makes you ponder over things... While I sit back comfortably writing this blog post on my iPad...I miss the time that has gone by. Its so strange because as a kid I always wanted to grow up and do the things I was not allowed to do back then.I used to think being an adult was amazing, so much so that I constantly reminded myself that it was only a few more years left for me to be an adult. Little did I know that it was the worst idea ever, Growing up is a very bad idea. PERIOD. Today I am at my desired age and all I want to do is go back in time. I want to Go back to the 90's because I feel that was the best time to be.We are from a generation that has had best of both the worlds. I want to go down memory lane and remember all the things that still brings a smile on my face

1. The sitcoms like Hum Paanch, Hip Hip Hurray, Dekh Bhai Dekh, Jungle Book or watching
Mahabharata and Ramayana with the entire family was the best thing to have happened to Telly tube.
     

                              

                                      

2. Relationships were so much easier to sort out. We could find out who loved us or who were our worst enemies merely from taking out flames with that particular person. That was the only compatibility test that one had to surpass.

3. The only brand of stationery familiar to us was Nataraj.

 

4. Toblerone was the one chocolate that was considered to be "International" and remember the box of assorted chocolates our relatives from abroad got us.

5. The red pack of the Phantom Cigarette Candy was bound to make us look cool.

6.Even the adverts were so familiar to us that we did not mind humming to the tunes of Vicco Bajradanti, Or Doodh si safedi Nirma se aaye,and Thanda literally meant Coca- Cola.

7. Buying a packet of Lays merely to collect the tazos and showing it off in front of our friends was the mandatory thing to do.

8. Covering your  books and  notebooks with the brown paper before the commencement of the new
session was so tiresome yet so satisfying.

9.Playing Mario well and killing that dragon and saving the princess was our measure of testing someone's capibility.

10. Playing Ludo,Akkar Bakkar Bambey Bo,Antakshari,Hop-scotch,Name Place Animal Thing and Carrom were the only team games we knew
 

11.Printers were not so common and all our school projects pictures were from the cut outs of the chart papers.

12. The First tattoo ever embarked on us was from the back print of that of the Fusen Gum Chewing gum.

13. Officially using the pen was a big deal. It meant Serious Business.

14. We had a stack of cassettes with Side A and Side B of our favorite songs.The recording feature on our tape recorder always kept us in awe.Using the Walkman with our headphones on was our "Me-Time"

15. Flying was only for the richie rich.The mode of transport familiar to us was the Train Journeys and we were even made to write an essay on that.

16. A particular time at night was alloted to talk to our relatives as the STD rates were lower at that time.We have all visited a PCO to make a phone call.

17. We all had a big fat landline telephone and a cordless phone with 2 lines.

18. We used to beg our relatives to change the batteries on our game boy so we could play Tetris or Snake.

19. Candies like Poppins, Hajmola ,choki,Nutties ,Amul Chocolate ,Pan Pasand were some of the sweetest treats.

20. Wearing Keds to school and coloring it with chalk to make it appear whiter so that we wouldn't be punished later.

21. Owning a Pencil Box that was the coolest made you feel superior.And how can we forget the all in one multicolored pens and the fancy erasers.

22. Using the rim of the stairs as a slide so that you reach faster than the person coming down of it.

                                            

23. Buying Ice Candies on our way back home from school quenched our thirst,or eating a bar of chocolate bar or an orange stick and sucking it till it became one large cube of ice.

Don't you agree with me 90's was the best time to be just writing this brought a smile on my face only if time travel was as easy as the rewind button.

I can't believe I actually wanted to grow up...

We are...

We have always been protected by innumerable layers.The first one being that of a mother's love and care.She is the one who we owe our existence to.She is the one who sacrificed months of sleep just to make sure we sleep well.She is the one who chose to stay back at home to keep a check on our home-works,our bags being set according to the timetable and missed out on various occasions where she could have had fun.In the wake of organizing our Birthday parties,she completely forgot about hers.She is the one who acts as our alarm clock, She is the one who is our personal chef,our personal chauffeur.She is the one who acts as a punching bag whenever we are mad or down.She understands and smiles it off.She is the one who holds our hands while we are sick.When we get reprimanded by our fathers for some mischief of ours,she sits in the corner and weeps her eyes out.Whenever we lose something she acts as the "Google" search bar and always seems to find the missing item.She is the one who is on our service 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.She stops living her life,she lives ours instead.She doesn't meet her friends for months or goes out to pamper herself.She is the one....I would probably take an eternity to point out the generosity of our mothers and even that wouldn't be enough...Despite that, when ever we are asked "What our mothers do?!?" All we come up with is " My Mom is just a home-maker".
She is not JUST a homemaker.She is everything and beyond.So,take a moment or two do something special for her and make her feel valued. Say " Thankyou" to her for always being there.Make her feel loved like she always does.With our base layer being ever so strong,Nobody can ever shake us.
The second layer Is that of a Grand-Mothers love.She is the one who constantly worries we haven't had enough food even with our plates full.She is the one who imparts wisdom upon us through the numerous stories she shares with us.She is the one who always thinks of us as being right and wonderful.
The next layer is that of a sister.She is the one who fights with us every day and night but if someone else raises a finger at us she prepares herself for a World War.She is our first friend,She is the one who opens the gates for us late at night after a party.She is the one who listens to all our problems.She is the one who is a prop to all our experiments.She is the one who always looks out for us.She is the one who saves every penny to buy us a special Birthday gift.
The next layer is that of a wife's.She is the one who leaves her family,her parents,her home to start a whole new world with us.She is our confidante.She is the one who knows what we need.She is the one who waits for us to have that one meal together.She is the one who knows us better than we know ourselves .She is the one who bears with us through all our flaws.She is the one who makes our world hers and nurtures it with love and care.She makes everything look Beautiful.
The next layer is that of a daughter.A daughter is the one us makes feel complete.Daughters are synonymous to innocence and warmth.She is God's blessing showered upon us.She is the one who makes pretty cards for us.She is the one who thinks of her father to be a superhero.She is the one who gives Life a meaning.
We are all protected by these multiple layers of love and warmth.With even one layer missing our world will fall flat on our face.A woman is a daughter,a wife ,a mother,a sister, a grandmother.She is everything and beyond.She can love endlessly and tirelessly.All she expects in return is to be treated with respect.She is not an object.She deserves the right to do whatever she wants to do without anybody dictating what is expected of her.Dont set standards of a good woman,Make the world a better and a worthy place for her.Make her feel loved and protected.Give her the credit she deserves.Raise your sons to be a better man,make them understand the value of a woman.Make them understand that if a woman can give birth to a new life,Nothing in this world is impossible for her.To all the girls and the women out there embrace your womanhood...Love yourself...Be yourself.Dont think of the world to be a ruthless place because of a few nincompoops.There is still a lot of good left in the world,never let anyone tell you what you can or cannot do.Just be a better version of yourself.
To all the men out there,it's high time you understand the value of a woman,the power of a woman.Treat her well not just on Women's day but every single second every single day.Make her feel important,express your gratitude for her because without her everything around would be lifeless,dirty and messy.

Happy Women's Day!

Ironical Enough?!?

What is it that the heart desires?!? Why does one feel alone at times... Why is it that Life isn't perfect?!?
Why do we wait for that one touch to  make us feel complete?!? Why cannot everyday be a " Sunday?!?"
Why cannot we always stay with our favorite people?!? Why does life have to be so complicated?!?
Why is it that only when we experience trials and tribulations do we understand the true essence of happiness?!?
Why do we only learn from the mistakes we make?!? What is it that the heart desires?!?
Why are we always on a search for something?!?
Why is it that we are all scared of death...even though life is not always a musical symphony...
When we are at our happiest selves why do we resort to tears to emote our innermost feelings?!?
Are these the lessons taught to us by God for us to reflect on the true meaning of life... Probably it is!...

There are so many questions we ask ourselves...over the years we have developed our own textbook of experiences...and we often turn the pages of that textbook to find out the answers to all our questions... But as we keep moving ahead a line,a paragraph and even a page gets added to our Book of Life ... The beauty of it is that each one of us has An altogether different book with our own set of stories to share with the World.

At the end of the day... All we want is the answer to our question. What we do not understand is that the Universe in its own way through it's own signs tries to send out the answers that we are all looking for. All we have to do is connect the dots and go with the flow! 😊

Finding ourselves ...

                                      

"We don't even choose our own names...yet we strive for a lifetime to make one"  Isn't it true?!? ... There is an inherent common desire in each one of us to make a name for ourselves...to be successful in our respective fields...for people to attribute our names with immense success...so in order to do that we often build a hierarchy for ourselves and as we cross each stage...we keep adding more and more goals to our hierarchical list...but are we ever content?!? All we want is a fast paced life with all our dreams fulfilled ... Have we ever taken a moment to look around us...to give ourselves a mental rest...we keep putting pressure on ourselves and our minds by asking this one question "What Next?" 

...and the people around us are no different..they make sure that you are never on a mental break! ...They give us enough reasons to constantly doubt our capabilities ...to Judge ourselves ...and to put increased pressure on us...

The younger version of me often thought that only a few more years and we would be set free...as we neared our Class 10th Board Examinations(A.k.a Atyachaar Stage 1) ...I was told that if we don't study well enough for these exams ...we wouldn't be allowed to choose our preferred stream...so the fear inculcated in us all made sure that we give up on living our lives and literally the books became our safe haven...And Guess What?!? CBSE Board authorities actually decided to eradicate Class 10th Board exams! WHAT?!? ... Why weren't we fortunate enough?!? Which is why the kids today have both their pockets filled with Good Fortune and Opportunities.... Then comes the Class 12 th Board Exams ( Atyachaar Reloaded ) and Our entire lives depend on the results of these exams...

So Basically for an entire year...all we are spoken to about is HOW IMPORTANT these exams are...not just for us but for our family's status quo as well...Its that Big a Deal in INDIA... So for an entire year Books are literally your best friend...Then comes the day of the announcement of the results...even if the poor kid scores a 90% it's not enough to get him into a decent college...Parents and even the poor chap cry their eyes out after having scored a 90% ... Common ?!? is that even Necessary....let the kids breathe for a little while...No wonder the song  " Saari Umra Hum Mar Mar ke Jee Liye...ek  Pal to ab Humein Jeene do" from 3 idiots is on every students recently played playlist... Parents take Note ... Stand by your kids ...don't let them make any stupid mistake,help them realize the various opportunities that lie ahead ... And the results of these exams are not the end of the world...Trust me it isn't! ...

 Then comes the 3 blissful years of College where you can just Be...No Pressures and a relaxed mindset....No wonder when we are on a nostalgia trip...the college memories are the most stress free and the adults often say...College Years are the best years of ones life...but but but in a blink of an eye Three years and for some four years pass by there is yet another rat race for us to face ... The placements,selecting a good college for the post graduation and etc ... The list goes on and on....even after having completed ones  Masters / securing a good job there is always the one question for us to answer " WHAT NEXT" ... Until and unless we give ourselves the mental break required we would never be set free... Relax ...we have all come a long way...crossed too many hurdles and there are still many more to cross ... We still have to figure out the lives for ourselves... So to all my fellow 20 year olds ... We are all in this together... It's not a cakewalk but let's not make it an inclined hill top walk ... Eventually we'd all find our calling... Till then let's just take a Chill Pill " Wink" 😉😉